the internet is way addictive, too
after the show saturday night i got into a discussion with a local who disagreed with me on the subject of intelligence and dating. i guess not everyone gets why i'm so convinced it's ultimately useless as a combination. sure, i know why it's sometimes nice to have a brighter conversational companion, but experience has proven to me beyond all reasonable (and unreasonable, too) doubt that intelligence and all sorts of other otherwise popular attributes are amply overrated.
see, i've boiled it all down to human connection, and concluded that kindness and care require none of the stuff that we frequently delude ourselves we'd want in another. is he/she kind to you? does he/she do nice things for you? then WHAT ELSE IS THERE???
oh, you're likely already loading the rebuttal cannon with all your dearly-held points about intellectual stimulation and conversation and understanding, but, i'll ask you, so far, in your life, what has it all got you? maybe you're still with your brainy evah-luvin and couldn't be happier, but, if so, i'd ask you next if he/she is kind to you and does nice things for you, too. because you know that if you're happy, they do.
so then we devolved in our interchange to the general availability of "smart" hereabouts, and if you know the local dis-reputation, you might guess where things went next... and, since i know you are rooting for the locals in this discussion as earnestly as i'm always rooting for the locals in *any* discussion, and since i also know you're wondering in the back of your mind how the heck i've concocted any sort of internal thought-process thread to get from they-yah to hee-ya, fear not, because there's an answer to both... see, while enjoying richard thompson so completely thoroughly that i still possess total lyrical recall (well, at least total with sufficient internet assistance, but i sometimes grasp the thread even without) i recalled during the conversation that richard included "the hots for the smarts" in his evening's set, and there were ample choruses of appreciative laughter at all the obscure intellectual references. but you'd have to hear it live to really enjoy it, so hit the live recording link from this page, and head into the file about a quarter of the way, and see if you can't find it. actually, you ought to listen to the whole thing from beginning to end, but i know you're all busy. (yeah, that's right... busy... that's the ticket). "there's more" was my favorite line. but i got the parts about proust and faraday's wheel, and i get why folks are sometimes impressed with other people who get those parts, too. but it's all empty to me in comparison to the kind and generous bits. i won't bore you yet again with my recent life's experience of having one without the other, but i think you can figure out where i'm coming from.
maybe i'm just lucky that all the people who are being so kind and generous to me these days are also, inexplicably considering who they're doing it to and for, smart, too. but i didn't pick 'em and i don't stay with 'em for the smarts. nope, not me. oh, don't get me wrong, i appreciate those parts of them like i appreciate the rest of it, but it's not what makes it work for me.
i'd like to think i'm giving my bit back to them in return, though i know i'm always likely to be in arrears.
but i'll always try.